I've mentioned a few times on the blog that Myles has a pretty hard time with school. He tries so hard, even his teacher has said that he is a hard worker and tries hard...but it's rough for him. He's no longer in danger of repeating this year, but obviously, we hate to watch him struggle, and have been doing our due diligence getting things looked into/checked out (as in dr's and therapists, etc.) to help him in any ways that we can. A lot of time this past month has been spent doing exactly that. His teacher is well aware of this, well aware of some recent diagnosis's (is there a different word for that??), and that he started taking his "special chill pill" this week.
One of the things he struggles with is any timed test, or rushed times (like getting things together to leave school). This has made timed math tests pretty brutal, he's been stuck on one for the past 6 weeks. I had promised him that when he did pass it, he could go to Sky High (trampoline play place). Well.....he passed it today!!!! I always check his bag before we leave the school while standing in front of his class room, and I saw it in there and pulled it out and said "Myles, what's this??" Instead of cheers and jumping for joy and being happy, he melted down in tears. Why?
He had taken too long today while packing up his stuff to go home. His teacher made him stand in front of the class and sing this song-
"My name is Tinkerbell,
I do not hear well,
I need my mommy here,
To pack up all my gear"
Apparently he has regularly had to stand in front of the class and sing this song.
Through his tears, he told me he knows its a mean song, and that it's embarrassing and that it's making fun of him for taking longer than the other kids and that the kids all call him tinkerbell.
Can I just ask since when does humiliation and embarrassment help alter a child's behavior?? When you are dealing with a student who is already struggling, where is the logic in making him stand in front of the class to point out his slowness in a mocking way?? I know for a fact that this teacher has issue with Myles being a more artistic boy than a rough and tumble boy due to the fact that he told me to "get him in organized sports and toughen him up!" So for more than a few reasons, I was livid.
It was with all the self control I could muster that I gritted my teeth when the teacher walked up and asked me "what is his problem?" I managed to ONLY say the words "I do not want him singing the tinkerbell song again," and believe me, there were a lot more words in my head I would have loved to say. The teacher smiled and said "I'll let him get ready first from now on."
Any thoughts on this whole thing?? Am I over reacting to be mad? Is this just a cute little saying and nothing more?? Have any of you heard this saying before??